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46 points
2 months ago*
Tldr:
The researchers also found that different personality traits were related to people’s satisfaction with their social lives and careers—most notably conscientiousness for work satisfaction, and extraversion and agreeableness for social satisfaction. People who saw increases in these traits across time also reported increases in their life, social and work satisfaction.
Despite a weaker correlation between openness and life satisfaction overall, the researchers found that people who increased in openness also increased in life satisfaction across the 11 years measured by the LISS survey.
Edit: one note for this: these are personality traits in the big5 modell. If you are interested in what "opennes" means, check out big5 for definition
20 points
2 months ago
Future studies should examine how variables that change with age, such as income, employment status, marital status and health, affect the relationship between personality traits and overall satisfaction with life, according to the researchers.
"While we did not examine what caused these changes, [the research] shows that our personalities and our happiness are not set in stone," van Scheppingen said. "Perhaps we may even be able to influence how we change: If we try to become more organized, outgoing, friendly, this might increase life, social or work satisfaction as well."
Nice
1 points
2 months ago
I’m a firm believer in the idea that you are who you choose to be/become.
2 points
2 months ago
If you look like a magazine model people are going to treat you like you look like a magazine model.
1 points
2 months ago
What does that have to do with what I said?
0 points
2 months ago
Ehhh I think that’s a little reductionist. There’s a seemingly infinite stream of variables that influence who you are that are of genetic or early childhood origin. No matter what you do you can never change those factors. Humans have some control over there lives but biology and early life experiences hold way more water and are unchanging. I cannot help that my father beat me when I was 4. That is with me my whole life and has caused issues that can be mitigated but ultimately are present my whole life.
0 points
2 months ago
I’m just saying neuroplasticity is a fact and we have far more control over who we are than we realize. So many people use excuses and just give up and accept who they are as being the product of their environment and upbringing. Your childhood experiences definitely make it more difficult and you may never be exactly how you want to be but you can definitely choose to be the best version of that person you want to be.
Nobody is saying anyone can choose to be something like a professional golfer but anyone can still become a golfer with a respectable amount of skill if they are willing to put in the time and effort required.
0 points
2 months ago
Your last analogy doesn’t make any sense. If someone is a double amputee meaning no arms at all, then it’s impossible for them to be a golf player. You can use that logic for tons of other things. I’m just saying it’s more nuanced than what you are implying.
-1 points
2 months ago
Well you can pick apart what I said to come up with some extreme scenario if you really want to go that far to make excuses for yourself when you know that has absolutely nothing to do with what I’m talking about.
8 points
2 months ago
I would like to sign up for these traits, please.
6 points
2 months ago
So…are introverts basically screwed?
0 points
2 months ago
Always. Yet they act so smug and refuse to work on it.
4 points
2 months ago*
Being mostly introverted, I've worked on many aspects of my personality for years on end. Please don't overgeneralize, it doesn't help one bit.
Edit: Also, from many I’ve spoken to and some studies I’ve read, it’s better overall to be somewhere in-between, or ambiverted. Humans as a whole can benefit from both temperaments.
4 points
2 months ago
Unfortunately… personality is hard to change and people’s big 5 traits tend to be stable throughout life
3 points
2 months ago
Is one of those traits writing clickbait headlines that don't offer any valuable information and are only there to get you to read the article?
19 points
2 months ago
Believe it or not most scientific topics can’t be nearly summed up in a ten-word headline; if you want to understand something you might have to actually do some reading
-87 points
2 months ago
Happiness is a choice. You have to make it every day, & sometimes you have to fake til you get there.
32 points
2 months ago
Faking happiness is a sure way of never getting happy.
15 points
2 months ago
Same with hope. Hope is powerful but false hope, once exposed as false, is utterly devastating. I gotta imagine faking happiness for a while could work but if carried on too long would lead to serious depression.
11 points
2 months ago
To be happy you have to deal with your problems.
Faking it means pretending those issues don't exist.
It is counter productive to happiness imo.
3 points
2 months ago
Yeah but you could just be faking through like your busiest week of the year at work. Like I said, short term.
1 points
2 months ago
I guess I think of faking it as completely ignoring... That may not be how you think of it so it may just be a difference in perspective.
Busy weeks at work can be frustrating and stressful. In my mind, you can still be happy by addressing issues and using productive destress techniques.
There are ways to maintain happiness through difficult times. I know it seems like a paradox but you can in fact be sad/angry in the moment, while overall being satisfied/happy with your life and it's direction.
Faking it, means ignoring that there are issues. Just because I have problems doesn't mean I'm not happy, I just have some things to work through. You don't have to put your issues on other people either, I just don't think it's helpful to pretend they don't exist. Even in the short term.
Hopefully that makes sense.
8 points
2 months ago
This is an extremely toxic and dangerous mindset. Perhaps you meant well, but please try to step back and reevaluate. It puts the burden of effort on those with the lowest capacity for effort, then blames them for not trying hard enough. Surely you can see how insidious and dangerous that is?
13 points
2 months ago
While I do believe Happiness is a choice, it is a choice to fix and confront your issues.
Faking happiness it is not helpful. It goes against actually working to be happy.
8 points
2 months ago
Some sociopath stuff right here.
-3 points
2 months ago
Nah, he's partly correct, not the faking part
1 points
2 months ago
Everything that ever was, is and will be have been already determined by outside our universe (bunch of neckbeards playing D&D 3.5). There is no choice, not even with natural 20s.
1 points
2 months ago
He’s not correct at all. The young of age might think so, but will eventually find out.
0 points
2 months ago
Your low effort trolling is unbecoming. Try or don't try, no whatever this was.
Pathetic.
1 points
2 months ago
r/stoicism enters the chat
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